You know, over the last 3 years of doing photography as a profession I have met people from far and wide, big to small, tall and short and pretty and some not so pretty. I have photographed them all. I have done weddings with people I have met just the day before, I have done shoots with super sexy girls in bikinis and I have photographed men with beer bellies, heck I am not the skinniest guy out there. But if there was one term that I hear EVERY SINGLE TIME at either a wedding or a corporate shoot or where ever…. I am not photogenic. If I could claim one liter of fuel for my car then I am pretty darn sure I would not have to fill up my car for a very long time!
So what makes us so un-photogenic?? The answer is ourselves, we make ourselves un-photogenic! Recently I watched a new commercial by the cosmetic company Dove, and to be honest, it was that commercial that sparked me to write this article.
So why are you un-photogenic? Well, its simple, we see what we don’t like in ourselves, its that simple. Ah my arms is to fat, my chin is to long, my nose is to pointy, my boobs are sagging…whatever it is that you don’t like about yourself, THAT will be the reason that you see yourself as un-photogenic. We are strange people and we see the negative easily in ourselves, yet…if you ask someone else who have met you to describe you, there will be a totally different picture of you! Sometime we just need to step out of our comfort zone and see ourselves through other peoples eyes.
I see it week after week at weddings, even with brides that is really pretty! My favorite thing is when they are all dolled up and ready and I start to do the bridal portraits and I show them one of the very first shots that I get of them, and they go: OMG!! Is that me in the picture?? I just love it! But why do I love it so much? Simply because they never thought that they could be that beautiful! And for once they see themselves through the eyes of a different person. Yes we might “pose” the bride in a flattering way and what ever, but that is how she looks! Take away the make up and the styled hair and its the same person, that is how you look EVERY DAY! Lat year I photographed about 60 professional people for a company profile and from the lot there must have been about 5 that did not walk in, greet me and straight after that said “I hope you can photoshop cause i am not photogenic” There was even some that made me take about 5 images of themselves, and they where unhappy with EVERY SINGLE ONE! To me they looked the same in each picture, but to them they where ugly people… In the end, that is how you look, if you are going to be critical and full of crap with how you look, then you will never ever be happy about anything about yourself. You will always look ugly to yourself even in the most expensive fashion garments…. People, you ARE NOT UGLY, you are you, and only you can be you!
The commercial I watched was hard hitting and so true, and to see some of the women actually cry when seeing the comparison between how they described themselves as to how other people described themselves was totally amazing! People will see your bright smile or the sparkle in your eyes, NOT your skew tooth, or the blemish on your forehead! To strangers or other people, even those you know very well, you are stunning, stay that way and don’t change, or try to change or try to force us to believe the fact that you believe you are ugly.
As I deal 90% of the time with women, this article is for you ladies… Those little laughing wrinkles by your eyes and at the corners of your mouth, that is character! I will not photoshop that. In fact i often say to ladies that is requesting that I photoshop them on a shoot or their wedding day: “Just remember that when you get your images or post it to Facebook and everyone goes Ohhh and aahhhh over it, that when they see you next time in person, the first thing they will thing is, Oh my hat, she got fat after her wedding/photo shoot” and ladies, that is true! They will never tell you that but they will think it! That is why I simply do not do any modification to any body parts from any shoot. Yes I will remove a pimple or an unsightly blemish, but that is where it stops.
So with this, I want to challenge the ladies out there, if you seriously think you are un-photogenic, contact me, come and I will take some images of yourself and show you that you are wrong.
So till next time, I really hope to be hearing from some of you, feel free to mail me or comment on this article and if you feel you have a friend that must be shown how stunning he/she is, share this article with them.
My sincere regards to all the stunning ladies, and guys, out there.
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